1 – DRESS THE PART
First impression is key, and if you don’t look presentable at first approach, let me tell you it may take some time and effort to correct that. This is a valid point for numerous situations; whether in personal life or a corporate, professional setting, people form their own perception of who you are within seconds of meeting you. Fortunately, your attire can be a very good asset here. It is certainly not everything, but forms a significant part of the first impression.
Here, I have decided to wear a bold and non-everyday outfit – a full look by the prestigious brand Ermenegildo Zegna. The elegant Zegna jacket is made of wool and alpaca with Shetland effect and a frontal panel in microfiber. Combined with a discrete and classy shirt under a layer of wool and cashmere with a frontal zip.
I have paired with that an extraordinary pair of grey trousers, super comfortable, to further portray a relaxed style in addition to the demi boots, pictured here, in dark brown smooth calfskin and wool laces. A mix of leather and fur, this particular item is a masterpiece for me – an ultra luxury bag made of alligator skin, to complete my “Gentleman Style”.
2 – BE ON TIME
You don’t want to make her wait for you … but at the same time you don’t want her to think you have been waiting for hours. So there is just one solution, be precisely on time.
This is exactly what I can do with the help of the incredible Chopard watch I am wearing here. One of the most exquisite timepieces in the world, the “L.U.C. Tourbillon Tech Steel Wings” is a treasure indeed.
Manufactured by Chopard in Switzerland, it is truly a rare and limited edition of only 100 pieces. A hand made piece, with a patented mechanism, blending the best of high-end watchmaking and contemporary elegance. The finishes are meticulously made and I simply love the anthracite tint of the watch movement. It is difficult to describe the sensations I had wearing such a timepiece, created after relentless hours of hard work by expert hands of the Grand Swiss Horlogery.
My guest for this Gentleman’s Attitude shoot was the beautiful Daniella Rahme, a young Lebanese celebrity that has been crowned Miss Lebanon Emigrant in 2010, as previously featured on our blog. Daniella has been the perfect partner to create this story, being an elegant lady deserving of the true Gentleman attitude and values, as she represents the class of femininity.
3 – STAY GENTLE
You can start with a nice gift; be mindful that great attention to detail never killed anybody and remember that she will always like beautiful flowers.
Don’t be afraid to be gentle, pay attention to her and take care of her. Give her a hand with the door, let her pass the entrance before yourself, stay polite, take her jacket… Ultimately, it’s all in the details and that is precisely what makes a difference, earning you the real gentlemen status.
Choosing the right place for your rendezvous is important. This is why I have chosen the “Grand Hôtel du Cap Ferrat”, a charming and enticing seaside retreat of paradise housed in a grand palatial mansion on the Côte d’Azur. If that was not enough, all this beauty is perched on the tip of the peninsula of Cap Ferrat with dazzling landscaped gardens and panoramic views of the Mediterranean. It is essentially a historical place, full of charm and beauty. The hotel features 73 guestrooms and suites, a private villa, an award‐winning spa, gourmet and casual dining, with one of the most beautiful pools in the world. Steeped in history, this 106 year old white palace hotel is a long standing meeting place for diplomats, socialites, aristocrats, actors, artists and all those with a passion for beauty.
4 – WORK YOUR ELOQUENCE
The way you talk can give a lot of insight into who you are. Work your eloquence in order to speak well, calmly and with utmost confidence. Have substance, avoid vulgarity and stay curious about different topics. The conversation has to be entertaining. Not that silence, or the occasional gap in the conversation is a bad point, to the contrary it is great sometimes to make a pause and speak with your eyes.
I relied on my eloquence right during our shoot in the breathtaking lobby of the Grand Hotel du Cap Ferrat, in the Rotunda, sharing a nice cup of tea with my dear friend. Indeed, a magic place that features unique pieces of interior design, custom made for the Hôtel, including the crystal table by Lalique and a baroque chandelier made by Tisserant.
5 – MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT
Of course dialogue is important, but sometimes more can be exchanged in simple eye contact. Don’t hesitate to look deeply in her eyes to make the connection and communicate in a way shows subtle intimacy and care.
From my point of view, eye contact and your ability to convey a message or a thought with one look is rather important, for ultimately it can be stronger than any words. At the same time it adds a notion of mystery…
6 – ELICIT A SMILE AND MAKE HER LAUGH
A smile is key to having fun and enjoying each other’s company – and what better way to her heart than smiling? Have a good sense of humor and be natural, be yourself. Gradually the smiles turn into laughs as conversation flows, and before you know it, you are amidst a relaxed atmosphere. Be a gentleman of great manners and positive energy – you are surely to be surrounded by amazing women of equal caliber.
7 – SHOW YOUR TALENT
Everybody has a unique talent and you have to take pride in it. Not that you want to impose, or ‘show-off’ to impress her but go ahead and let your qualities shine through. I am sure she will never be against a nice piece of music played with heart – a sensual interpretation on a refined piano. On that particular note, I had the privilege of playing in the hotel’s tasteful library, with stunning interior design by the Internationally acclaimed, Pierre Yves Rochon.
I must admit, the use of beige Persian marble and white Calcuna Cream throughout the rooms and public spaces, in addition to exquisite fabrics of white linen, and natural silks in pastel tones, visually maximize the effect of sunlight and spectacular sea views.
8 – PROTECT HER
She has to be the center of attention and also the one you protect. She has to feel good and safe with you. A real gentleman has to protect his lady. So, step up!
9 -GIVE HER ROOM TO BREATHE
This may seem to be in opposition to the previous point, but it is all about balance. Too much of anything is never good – remember, all things in moderation. Be mindful, she needs her own space to express herself and most certainly will not appreciate any form of controlling, intrusive behavior. Keep your personality and individual interests, give each other room to grow and enjoy time spent separately. Enjoy the thrill of the chase, but know when to slow down and give room to breathe!
10 – STAY CONFIDENT, STAND LIKE A BOSS
Finally, be the protective one and stand proudly. Your attitude is one of the main factors here; your posture and body language reveal a lot more than you think. Have presence, a signature style; emit an aura of confidence when you enter the room. Share your opinions, give affirmations, take the lead when necessary, make decisions … and of course, act like a boss.
Hope you enjoyed the read! I would like to give special thanks to the Grand Hôtel du Cap Ferrat for hosting us on this fun & fabulous photo shoot.
A big thanks also goes to my dear friend, Daniella Rahme.
Executive Producer, Director, AuthorTom Claeren
Model, GuestDaniella Rahme
Text editorAna Krndija